Did you know that when we’re born, we have just 2 instinctive fears?
What are they?
- Fear of loud noises
- Fear of falling
As we grow, we learn to fear many more things and many fears are learned when we’re children, to protect us from dangerous situations and keep us safe throughout our lives. For example, if we didn’t learn to fear fire and we kept sticking our hand in the flames, we’d soon have no hand left.
However, although we need some fears, some of those learned fears may no longer serve a purpose and indeed they hold us back. We become scared of doing things… so we don’t!
While reading some articles recently, I came across this question in an article by Dr Travis Bradbury author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0:
“What would I do if I wasn’t scared?”
It got me thinking about things I’ve not done as a result of being scared and allowing some long-standing learned fears to hold me back from achieving my dreams…
I’ve worked really hard over the last few years to break through some barriers and in recent years, I’ve definitely jumped over some hurdles and made some particularly BIG changes in my life. There have been people, family, friends and bloggers who’ve inspired me to make some life changing decisions, which I’d been too scared to make previously.
After attending Andy Harrington’s Power to Achieve Event with my sister last year, I came away so inspired and felt enabled to break through some BIG blocks and barriers.
Probably the biggest challenge for me was making the decision to jump off the hamster’s wheel and give up a well-paid job as a Senior Manager. I’d worked for over 30 years developing my career and it had definitely felt very scary whenever I’d ever thought of really going for it and becoming self-employed.
The fear of leaving the world of employment and a steady income had definitely held me back for a long time and yet just 2 weeks after attending Andy Harrington’s event, I left my job. I left behind my fear and chose FREEDOM…
I still work hard but now it’s for myself and I love it.
I still have some scary moments though – thoughts and fears that I know are still holding me back from reaching my full potential and are no longer serving the purpose they were originally learned for (I’m not sure what I ever was meant to learn from these…)
- Fear of making a fool of myself
- Fear of not being good enough
- Fear of failure
I’m working on them and as I continue to learn and grow, my self confidence is definitely increasing and it’s a barrier I’m determined to break through so I can truly achieve my dreams and ambitions.
If I wasn’t scared I’d already be:
- Public Speak on bigger stages
- Running BIG Law of Attraction Events and Vision Board Workshops
- A published author having finished the 2 books I’ve started but are now languishing somewhere in my head!
As some of you will know, I’m a great believer in the Law of Attraction and I believe that when the vibration is right, great things can and do happen. We meet people who teach us the lessons we need to learn (sometimes that can be really hard), people who inspire us to change appear in our lives.
I’ve certainly met some amazingly inspirational bloggers who are also breaking through their own fears and following their dreams too and may not be aware of how much they’ve inspired me to keep going myself.
I couldn’t write this post without giving a MASSIVE shout out to Miriam from Outanabout blog who has broken through so many barriers in the last year and is now soaring like an eagle. If you haven’t met Miriam pop across and have a read of her incredibly inspiring posts https://outanabout.com/
Then there’s Brigid, who has actually completed her wonderful book Watching The Daisies and continues to inspire me to finish mine. She’s receiving some fabulous reviews for her book and you can find out more by visiting her blog: https://watchingthedaisies.com/
Fiona (alias Osyth) https://osyth.org/ reminds me constantly that it’s never too late to follow your dreams and I have no doubt that the children of Grenoble who are now being taught by this incredibly inspiring lady, will one day look back and remember how they were inspired by their amazing teacher. Well done Fiona for following your dreams and for inspiring us to continue with ours…
Over the last year, I’ve been challenging myself to meditate more regularly and am regularly inspired by Bella who posts some beautiful meditations which have helped to bring me some beautiful moments of peace and inspiration and are definitely worth popping across to Bella’s blog for: https://thoughtsnlifeblog.com/
So let me ask you the question, who inspires you to break through your blocks and…..
What would you do if you weren’t scared?
I’d truly love to hear from you so please leave me a comment below…
For anyone else who Fears Failure and is therefore scared of trying again, here’s a great motivational video to help you question why you’re holding yourself back…
What are you missing out on because you’re scared?