Let me ask you 2 quick questions:
- Do you know what you like about yourself?
- Do you feel abundant?
When I talk about Abundance, this may be financial abundance, but may also relate to an abundance of love, fabulous relationships, wonderful friendships etc.
If you answered Yes to both questions – FABULOUS!
If you answered NO to either or both of the questions then it’s likely there is a connection between how you’re feeling about yourself and the amount of abundance your experiencing in your life.
If you answered No to Question 1, it’s likely that you’re suffering from low self esteem and a lack of confidence, as a result of not investing enough time and energy into yourself.
A very simple, quick and easy way to improve your self esteem and confidence, is to start appreciating yourself.
- Start a new daily habit of writing down each day, some of the things that you like and appreciate about yourself. This will shift your emotional responses from a negative perspective to a more positive one.
Initially, when you think about what you like and appreciate about yourself, you may find it difficult to answer, so here’s some ideas to get you started:
- What’s your favourite physical feature about yourself? We all have at least one redeeming feature – what’s yours….
- eye colour/shape/eyelashes
- mouth/nice teeth/great smile
- birth mark or freckles
- great legs
- What do you like about your personality?
- Sense of humour
- Good listener
- Good communicator
- Sharp Wit
- Logical Thinker
- If you stepped out of yourself and looked at yourself through your best friend’s eyes, what would you like?
- good friend, caring, clever, funny, good cook, loving nature, honesty,
- What are you able to do well?
- good homemaker, good parent, loving child, good photographer, good at writing, cooking, making things, mending cars, DIY, cleaning or working, maths, languages, geography, lovemaking etc.
When we list positive things about ourselves, we have a reference to look back on and remind ourselves of, in those moments where we are full of self doubt or when somebody criticises us. We can start to flip our negative image and create a more positive image of ourselves.
This is a list we can continually add to and by making a conscious effort to add to the list each day, there comes a point where we look back and think – hey, I’m pretty damn fabulous! We start to accept what we’ve written at a deeper level of consciousness.
When we learn to appreciate our positive self, we can also then start to view the things that we’d like to develop in ourselves from a more positive angle. Instead of beating ourselves up about our failings or things we don’t like, we can start to build on our positive self.
Instead of speaking to ourselves like: “I’m rubbish at everything” “Everything I try to do turns out sh*t” “I’m not good enough at…..”, we can start to say “I’m really good at ……… and I can now build on this to become even better at …………” .
Can you feel the difference that building on our strengths can make?
This simple worksheet is a great tool to use as a daily reminder. Write down the things you appreciate about yourself and then add some reminders about what your grateful for. These will begin to raise your level of vibration from negative to positive.
In the ‘I’m Abundant Notes’ section, start to write down any little signs of abundance that you notice. It may be finding a penny on the floor or a friend you’ve not heard from for a while getting in touch etc.
- Write down all the signs you notice as a reminder of how abundant you really are.
This worksheet is a great way to lift your mood and to remind yourself of your inner brilliance that maybe you’d forgotten existed….
When we receive positive feedback – either from ourselves or others, we boost our inner confidence but when we receive negative feedback, our confidence is often zapped. Building up a better level of internal appreciation about who we are and what we can do well, helps us to feel stronger and recognised negative feedback as an opportunity to become even better and learn more about ourselves, rather than knocking us for six!
Self-appreciation helps us understand our strengths and identify areas we can further improve and writing down what we appreciate about ourselves, is a great reminder when those nagging doubts kick in…
- After a few weeks, your confidence and self esteem will start to soar!
Leave me a comment – I’d love to hear your thoughts and I can also send you the FREE pdf worksheet for you to download, if you’d like to receive a copy – just let me know!