Are You Committed To Being Happy or Unhappy?

Listen to yourself and notice the next time you say “I’d like to but I haven’t got time”

When you’d like to do something but you’re not because you’re busy doing something else, what is it that you’re missing out on?

We often fill our lives which we feel we have to do, rather than what we really want to do. We miss out on living the life of our dreams because we’re doing what we should do rather than taking care of ourselves and doing what we really want to do. Are you putting off doing the things that will really improve life? If we don’t like the results we’re seeing in life, isn’t it time to commit to doing the things that we’d like to do instead of spending time doing things that we feel we have to do?

So, next time you hear yourself saying “I’d like to but haven’t got time”, STOP and think about it – is that something that you REALLY want to do and would it enhance your life if you did it? If the answer is YES then commit yourself to doing it!

Are you looking for reasons why you can’t do something rather than looking at how you could do it? What could you do differently that would help you to achieve the things you’d like to do?

  • Get up earlier or go to bed later and fit that thing in! How are you spending your time – spend it doing something different and your results will be different.
  • Stop spending time stuck on our hamsters wheel, running round and round and doing the same things over and over again
  • Commit to doing things that make us happy and improve our life
  • Create a clear VISION and look for how you can achieve it rather than looking for reasons why you can’t do it
Do you know what you really want to be doing? What will make you happy and how will you know when you’ve got it?

When you say you’d ‘like to do something’ do you really mean it?

Are you committed to being happy or unhappy?

It’s time to start creating a clear VISION and setting some SMART goals for ourselves.

Once you’ve created your VISION, it’s time to set some SMART Goals. If you aren’t sure what you want, try creating your Vision Board, to start reminding yourself about what makes you feel good inside. We’re often so focussed on doing the things we feel we have to do, that we forget to do the things we’d love to do. If you’ve never created a Vision Board, this really helps gain some clarity – check out how here: How to Create a Dream Vision Board

Once we know what we want, it’s time to start creating the map, to work out the steps we need to take to achieve our life vision. Start setting some Goals. Setting SMART goals, can make a massive difference.

What are SMART goals?
  • SMART goals are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Timescaled.
  • Setting SMART goals and taking action every day toward achieving those goals creates momentum in our lives.
  • We move from thinking it’s something we’d like to do, to something we’re committed to doing.
  • We have a direction and we can start taking small steps (or giant ones), toward something we’ve given priority to and committed ourselves to.

SPECIFIC Goals – Give us clarity on what it is we want to achieve. Stating exactly what we would like to achieve and imagining how we would feel if we achieved it, generates an emotional response, which helps keep us going on the days we feel like giving up.

MEASURABLE Goals – Means we can clearly see how far we’ve come in our new goal. We know the start point and we can see the benefits of taking the action and what we’ve achieved by taking daily action. It helps us build on daily success or to recognise that we’re not moving to where we want to go, so we need to review what we’re doing and do something differently. Sometimes we go ‘off course’ but if we’re not measuring our progress, we don’t realise we’re off track and we keep heading in the wrong direction, that moves us away from our goal and not toward it.

ACHIEVABLE Goals – Setting goals that are challenging but achievable, helps us build on success. If we start by doing something that is too hard and feels impossible, and in means we’re likely to give up very quickly. Build on your success!

REALISTIC Goals– Break goals down into smaller chunks, so that the outcome at each milestone feels realistic. If you want to write a book – think about writing the first chapter – that feels more realistic than the whole book doesn’t it?

TIMESCALED Goals – If we don’t set ourselves a time limit, we end up putting action off because we’re too busy etc. Set a timescale and commit yourself to sticking to that timescale.

Les Brown describes this process here…

Is it time to Get Committed to YOUR LIFE?

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  1. November 14, 2018 / 4:45 am

    I seriously need to update my vision board Wendy! xx

    • Wendy
      December 3, 2018 / 9:34 pm

      Now is the perfect time Miri! You and me both. I’m going to do a Vision Board Workshop – pop over and we’ll do it together xx

      • December 3, 2018 / 9:40 pm

        Oh, I’d love to. You have no idea how much I’d love to. xx

        • Wendy
          December 3, 2018 / 10:16 pm

          Well we’ll have to visualise it for now then… Double the power! xx

          • December 3, 2018 / 10:16 pm


  2. October 4, 2017 / 8:10 am

    Great article Wendy! It’s pretty powerful to realize just how much of your life is dictated by what you commit yourself to. I’m definitely ready to commit myself to the happy life that I want, and your article was a great timely reminder because life always gets in the way, when you decide to go after better for yourself.

    • Wendy
      October 4, 2017 / 9:25 am

      Absolutely – we definitely need that commitment to ourselves. Have you considered joining in with the Brilliance Within Habit Changing Challenge – if you use Facebook, I could add you into the group. Changing our life one habit at a time and committing to take action (it can be small not massive action) every day for 90 days.. I’m finding this is working brilliantly for me and after 37 days, I’m really starting to enjoy my daily exercise habit for the first time in my life! If you’re interested, let me have your facebook details and I’ll add you into the group. x

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