How To Embrace Individuality In A Robotic World….

How To Embrace Individuality In A Robotic World….

“Embrace your individuality” – I love that phrase and for me, it means having the confidence to be honest with yourself and others and often standing away from the crowd. I recall my granddad frequently telling us as children..

“When you see people walking together toward something, stop for a moment and consider whether you are better to walk in a different direction alone…”

We don’t have to walk in the opposite direction to others, as sometimes it’s only a small shift that is required, to enable us to walk the path that aligns with our personal values and beliefs.

Making that shift, will feel more comfortable than if you tread the path of others when it isn’t fully aligned with your core values…

Let me give you a personal example…

I have been a great believer in the importance of ‘family’… it’s definitely one of my ‘core values’. However, working longer and longer hours over recent years, contributed to an unhealthy work life balance and when I was eventually diagnosed with Diabetes, I was forced to recognise that I was living ‘outside’ of my core values..

I was spending too much time at work and although I made sure I spent time with my family as well, I wasn’t being ‘honest’ as I was often exhausted and therefore not fully ‘present in the moment’…

For a period, I had lost sight of my core values and beliefs and I was therefore living ‘at odds’ with them…

I look around and see that more and more people are ‘living at odd’s’ with their values and suffering illness, stress and even death as a result. That feeling of being ‘stuck on the hamsters wheel’, having to run faster and faster to keep up.

There have been so many changes in the last 30 years in how we work. It was interesting to see that in 1946, workers were fighting for the 40 hour week and yet here we are 70 years later, with many of us working far more than this.


Access to the internet has been wonderful and opened up a whole new world and yet on it’s downside, it’s changed the expectations of how we work, with companies expecting us to check our emails at night or we simply feel that we have to ‘log on’ as soon as we ‘get home’..

The lines between work and home have for many people blurred and often results in a negative impact on our our relationships and our mental health.

The Asian work ethic was hailed as ‘the best’ way back in the 1970’s with the rise of Japanese car manufacturers like Toyota and here in the UK.

I recall attending management training where we were taught some of those management principles and yet even by the 1980’s, the impact of those stringent methodologies was impacting on the mental health  their workers.

We are probably all aware of the ‘Suicide Nets’ that are being used in China and Japan to prevent workers ‘jumping to their death’…

We currently live in a world where more and more politicians, business leaders and bosses  are shouting loud about the need to ‘BE MORE PRODUCTIVE’.

Here in the UK we’ve adopted many of those ‘Best Methods’ that were hailed in the 1980’s… We’ve closed many of the British car manufacturing factories and Japanese manufacturers have opened car plants here in the UK instead.

Many of our ‘core’ manufacturing businesses have been taken over by foreign investors and the philosophy of working harder and harder has crept into many of our workplaces.

As individuals, we feel the need to ‘keep up’ with the pressure for fear of losing our jobs…. and yet, do we really want to work in this way?

Are we now seeing the negative impact of some of those principles that were hailed as ‘The Best’ in the 1980’s including:

  • Exhaustion
  • Stress
  • Breakdown of Family life
  • Suicides

….. to name but a few.

Yet we continue to hear that ‘being more productive’ is the way forward.

We want to purchase things ourselves ‘on the cheap’ but at what cost is this to our lives and to the society we live in?

In my view, it’s often at a cost to our health and the health of others and increasingly, we are competing with ‘robots’, which results in increasing unemployment…

Here in the UK, we no longer have the British manufacturing industry we were once so proud of. Even where we do continue to ‘manufacture’, we find that many of those companies aren’t British and rely on hefty foreign investment, which is often from China.

Are we building a ‘noose’ around the businesses of this country, where we hand the rope to those large Corporations who then choose when they’ll pull the cord tight and will ultimately ‘hang us out to dry’?

We turn a blind eye to the ‘slave labour’ principles that are often adopted across Asia, because it has meant we are able to buy ‘cheaper’ goods and indeed those same principles of working harder, longer and for less money are now part of our society too.

We increasingly see the new ‘phenomenon’ creeping in by stealth… ROBOTS …

Having adopted ‘robotic’ principles in many organisations for ‘real workers’,  we now see artificial intelligence and robots being used more and more to take over ‘real people’s’ jobs.

This would be all well and good if we moved toward a life where we could be ‘paid a great wage’ to stay at home, live great and exciting lives and do the things we enjoy…

Somehow though, I suspect that it is more likely that profits will increase for the  shareholders, Chief Executives and Business Owners, leaving an even larger gap between the ‘haves’ and the ‘have nots’ ….

Increasingly, we have become aware of the ‘non tax’ culture of the large Corporations… they simply don’t want to take any responsibility for being part of Society and yet continually put the pressure on workers to improve productivity and we run faster and faster on our hamster’s wheel to keep up, in order to ‘maximise profits’ for the Shareholders or the ‘Bonuses’ for the ‘Fat Cats’….

Have a read of Matthew Loomis’s take on this, it makes an interesting read…


Maybe instead, more countries should take a leaf out of Bhutan’s book, where the priority and focus is to provide a ‘Happier’ Country to live in and thus assessing their laws, policies, business decisions against the measure of Gross National Happiness….

“If the government cannot create happiness for its people, then there is no purpose for government to exist.” – Legal code of Bhutan (1729)

“Gross National Happiness is more important than Gross Domestic Product.” – His Majesty Jigme Singye Wangchuck, the Fourth King of Bhutan

“Gross National Happiness measures the quality of a country in more holistic way and believes that the beneficial development of human society takes place when material and spiritual development occurs side by side to complement and reinforce each other.” – His Majesty Jigme Khesar Namgyel Wangchuck, the Fifth King of Bhutan

Yes – surely that’s an example we can learn from.. a Nation focussed on making lives of their citizens happier and where the measures are of Gross National Happiness (GNH) and not of Gross Domestic Product (GDP), which is a key measure of ‘success’ for the rest of the world!

I think in the World we now live in, we often get sucked into believing what we see and hear on the News and Social Media or by Politicians, Religious Leaders, Fanatics and ‘Role Models’ in Film, TV and Sport. We get drawn into societal ‘norms’ … thinking it’s ok to do something just because we see others doing it or we’re told it’s ‘The Right Thing’….

We can continue to be ‘sucked in’ to popular beliefs or we can think those things through for ourselves and become clear on our personal values and beliefs. 4 Ways to Develop your Personal Values List and help you to Lead A Life Worth Living!

We sometimes ‘go along’ with the popular view because we don’t have the confidence to say what we truly believe deep within our hearts. 8 Ways to Help Improve Your Confidence.

If you are clear on your core values and you work on your confidence, you may find that you can start to ENJOY standing out from the crowd and standing up for what you believe is right.

Maybe we will even surprise ourselves and others may actually listen and start to follow our lead and embrace making small changes that could lead to a massive shift in the world we live in….

Maybe then all Countries could place Gross National Happiness as their measure of success!

What do you think?





  1. March 6, 2017 / 3:44 am

    It’s the same here in Australia with so much being sold off to other countries. Gross National Happiness is awesome. I really love that idea. Here’s to a fulfilling work life balance for all of us. xo

    • March 6, 2017 / 6:41 pm

      It’s not good is it.. who’s going to have ultimate control of all the countries in the end I wonder… Yep – Gross National Happiness is much better for us to focus on!! Cheers Miriam xx

  2. March 4, 2017 / 9:47 am

    I love Bhutan’s take on what’s important Wendy. Thankfully I left the world of life assurance after 13 years back in 1987. My colleagues lost their jobs soon after as the company was swallowed by a bigger company. I am glad to be my own boss but it does have its downsides too…xx

    • March 4, 2017 / 1:55 pm

      You’re right Brigid – self employment isn’t always easy either.. I think more corporations and big companies are increasingly difficult places to work.. I’m hoping to be master of my own destiny from this point on! x

      • March 4, 2017 / 2:04 pm

        Great Wendy. You have taken the leap and you will be taken care of…xx

        • March 4, 2017 / 9:20 pm

          I think you could be right Brigid! I’m feeling very positive… xx

  3. March 3, 2017 / 9:30 pm

    Hmm interesting post… thought provoking too as I feel we must learn our core values from an early age and stick to them… 🙂 xx

    • March 3, 2017 / 10:30 pm

      Most definitely Samantha although often we get ‘sidetracked’ along the way.. xx

  4. March 3, 2017 / 8:19 pm

    Excellent post. I like gross national happiness… thats the best

    • March 3, 2017 / 10:32 pm

      I know – what a great ‘measure’ – how much better the world would be if that’s what Governments were creating policies to achieve! Have a great weekend Bella x

  5. March 3, 2017 / 7:18 pm

    I believe that time is coming… the shift in consciousness (which is picking up speed daily) is going to bring about so many changes in our world! I hope I get to experience it while I am still here!

    • March 3, 2017 / 10:34 pm

      I truly hope you do too Amanda! We can each spread our own positive ripples.. who knows which shores they’ll land on! Have a brilliant weekend. x

      • March 3, 2017 / 10:35 pm

        You too, Wendy!

        • March 3, 2017 / 11:05 pm

          Thanks Amanda! x

  6. March 3, 2017 / 6:34 pm

    Thought provoking! Fortunately for me, I’ve gotten excellent at leaving work at the office. Quite literally the moment I walk out the door, I’m done 🙂

    • March 3, 2017 / 10:38 pm

      That’s brilliant! … I never quite achieved that skill.. Have a brilliant and fun filled weekend! x

      • March 3, 2017 / 10:48 pm

        Thanks! You too 🙂

        • March 3, 2017 / 11:05 pm

          Much appreciated xx

  7. March 3, 2017 / 6:31 pm

    I love Gross National Happiness as a focus, Wendy! Did you know that the international day of happiness is March 21 this year? Last year I went to a day at the UN on happiness. It was transformational as a seed to what you’re addressing here. Lots of hugs to you and all. I love you, Debbie

    • March 3, 2017 / 10:42 pm

      Thanks Debbie.. You’re so lovely! I didn’t know about the international happiness day on the 21st March – I’m going to look into that! That sounds like a fabulous day that you went on last year – how wonderful! I hope you’ve got a great weekend planned… Much love to you sent with a BIG hug xx

  8. March 3, 2017 / 6:05 pm

    Anybody arguing with you here is seriously deluded! You are absolutely spot on on every point and I will be sharing this article with several people who I think might benefit. I love the idea of Gross National Happiness. Can we start a campaign, please? X

    • March 3, 2017 / 6:13 pm

      I’m definitely all for that campaign Osyth.. Shall I do a follow up to start it? Maybe we should start a new political party – The Gross National Happiness Party! xx

      • March 3, 2017 / 6:42 pm

        Yes and YES!!! I bet there’ll be a landslide of members jostling to join in. Perfectly perfect xx

        • March 3, 2017 / 10:34 pm

          Haha – well we’ve got a party of 2 so far! One step at a time.. x

  9. PaperPuff
    March 3, 2017 / 5:05 pm

    So much of what you say here rings true. Having worked for very demanding large corporations I know that work/life balance is so difficult. Nobody wanted to be the first to leave their desk at the ‘end’ of the working day, so often worked overtime (for free!) until they felt it was acceptable to go, or someone else had made the first move. Ridiculous! It takes guts to stick to your guns (sorry about the mixed metaphor!).

    • March 3, 2017 / 5:10 pm

      Oh I absolutely recognise that… been there done that worn the t-shirt. For an organisation I worked for a few years ago, I eventually calculated on my basic salary rate what they owed me for the additional hours I’d worked (if I’d been entitled as a manager to overtime which I wasn’t!) – it was over £50,000 during an 18 month period … more than my salary itself! ….MUG/Forehead comes to mind….
      Thank you so much for reading and have a brilliant weekend! x

      • PaperPuff
        March 3, 2017 / 5:32 pm

        You have a great weekend too!

        • March 3, 2017 / 5:34 pm

          Thanks so much! xx

  10. March 3, 2017 / 4:53 pm

    Great words Wendy and so true we have to give time to family and to ourselves too and yes with today’s technology work has become so simplified.

    • March 3, 2017 / 4:57 pm

      Thank you! Life can be simple and yet somehow we complicate it…
      Have a brilliant weekend! x

        • March 3, 2017 / 5:01 pm

          Yes – thankfully I took ‘time out’ of work to focus on re-building my health and although initially I was advised to take medication, I declined and have managed to bring levels to ‘pre-diabetic’ status through changes of eating… Low Carb diet and loss of 2 stone in weight.. which is fantastic! I feel better than I have in a long time..Thank you for asking!! xx

          • March 3, 2017 / 5:03 pm

            Great Wendy and do take care of yourself that is more important. Stay blessed in his love.

          • March 3, 2017 / 5:06 pm

            Absolutely – I’m clear on my ‘values’ now and thank you so much for your lovely words! x

          • March 3, 2017 / 5:10 pm

            Welcome dear. Just trying to give up stress and anxiety will bring down anything enjoy life which is so little and will not know when it will pass by.

          • March 3, 2017 / 5:12 pm

            So true Kamal.. thank you and of course you’re right, we need to enjoy the precious moments of life because we never know when they may change… x

          • March 3, 2017 / 5:18 pm


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