Can you tell which of these diamonds is real or fake? I find it’s the same with people. Sometimes the ‘fake’ person is pretty obvious just like my glitzy bangle and yet sometimes it’s really hard to spot and takes a lot longer for their sparkle to diminish and for us to realise that they are a cubic zirconia or even just glass paste!
Have you ever come across that person who is effusive and talks a lot about offering you help and support “You can count on me when you ever need anything doing”… and yet when you really do need a bit of help they seem to evaporate and disappear into the ether?
Their words weren’t genuine, they weren’t being honest and they never expected you to actually take them up on the offer!! Fake?
I’ve sometimes found that it’s the people who’ve quietly stayed on the periphery of my life that start to shine when real help is required. They seem to take on a new form and like the sparks shooting out from a diamond in the sun, suddenly the atmosphere is lifted by the genuine diamond as their inspiration and strength emerge and they shine their light to lead the way out of a dark tunnel or help to reveal the treasure at the end of the rainbow light they have created.
We can all add shine on the outside with our makeup, clothes, shoes (of course!!) and jewellery but a genuinely ‘brilliant diamond’ is rare! They are the people who are honest and living life in accordance with their own values and beliefs. They genuinely care for humanity and offer true support and a helping hand when needed but without ‘judgement’ of those in need of help.
When you are lucky enough to have a genuine diamond in your life, make sure you treat them with the love, care and respect they deserve and continue to enjoy the spark and strength of their inner beauty… Appreciate how lucky you, show your gratitude and continue to enjoy the treasure!
That ‘inner diamond’ is within us all but sometimes we keep it deeply buried maybe through a lack of confidence or a lack of trust and maybe it’s been buried so deep for so long that we’ve forgotten that the diamond within us exists at all.
Take some time out to write down what your values and beliefs are – be honest with yourself. Live your life in accordance with your own values and beliefs and not those of others. Take time to challenge your beliefs as what you ‘believe’ about yourself isn’t always the reality.
For example – If your ‘Negative Committee’ (see post The Negative Committee In Your Head– tells you that you can’t do something because “you’re rubbish” at writing, drawing, driving etc. etc. etc. ” give the committee a slap and wheel in the Positive Committee instead!
Replace the ‘I can’t do this…” with ‘How can I do this’. Cast your mind back to a time when maybe you did draw a picture or write a story or poem etc. or if it’s something you’ve never tried before ‘Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway’! You may just find that you enjoy yourself…
For years I told myself I was ‘rubbish at art’ and then when I was clearing my mum’s house after she died, I found a plate that I’d painted for her 30 years before when I attended a China Painting class – I’d completely forgotten about my brief encounter with art and I surprised myself when I looked at the work I’d done – not the best but certainly a good attempt. What I recalled when I looked at this plate though was how much I’d enjoyed those classes before life and work took me in a different direction… And now it’s a possibility to re-explore once again!
(Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway is an easy read self help book which encourages you to step out of your self built boundaries and to expand your horizons – Author:Suzanne Jeffers)
Challenge your beliefs around whether you are a ‘good friend’ or not. Consider your ‘actual response’ to a request for help and when you make an offer of help, do you really mean it and do you stick around when your offer is accepted or do you ‘disappear into the ether’?
Do you believe you’re a good friend because you offer lots of help but in reality you run a mile if someone takes you up on your offer? Challenge yourself and only make the offer of help in future, if you genuinely want and have the capacity to provide the support – otherwise keep your mouth shut!!
Treasure the true diamonds in your life and work on challenging yourself to become a genuine diamond and reveal your own Brilliance Within!
SHINE BRIGHT – BE A DIAMOND!